“You know what you did”


Zanab Jaffrey talks about how her ex fiancé Cole Barnett

Zanab Jaffrey’s Instagram

Love is blind may have ended up breaking Zanab Jaffrey’s heart – but she stands by everything she said.

In an emotional Instagram post addressed in part to her ex-fiancé Cole Barnett and the show’s critical viewers, Zanab opened up about her experience on the show as well as what went unseen on screen.

“Cole, I fought for us until I couldn’t anymore. I know you know that. I know you know why I said what I said,” he said. she captioned a series of photos of the once happy couple. “I know you know what you did. It’s okay if you’re not ready to talk about it yet.”

Zanab, 32, and Cole, 27, got engaged during Love is blindthe third season of, but their relationship became more and more difficult over time. Cole has come under fire for his behavior towards Zanab throughout the season, including admitting his attraction to co-star Colleen Reed despite his relationship with Matt Bolton. Cole’s conversation with Colleen, 26, later caused problems in both relationships.

Zanab and Cole also often had very heated arguments, one of which saw Cole wondering if Zanab was “bipolar”.

Zanab Jaffrey talks about how her ex fiancé Cole Barnett

Zanab Jaffrey talks about how her ex fiancé Cole Barnett

Zanab Jaffrey’s Instagram

On their wedding day, Zanab passionately said “no” to marrying Cole.

“You disrespected me, you insulted me, you criticized me, and for what it’s worth, you single-handedly shattered my self-confidence,” she told Cole in front of their wedding guests. “And what’s wrong is I know I love you, but love shouldn’t feel like that. I can’t marry you.”

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During the reunion episode, Zanab accused Cole of shaming her at a time that was not shown on screen. “One day it was around 2 p.m. and we were still filming,” she recalls. “I hadn’t had a chance to eat, so I grabbed two Cuties, like two little oranges that fit in the palm of your hand. And he looked at me and said, ‘You’re going to eat both ?'”

The clip of Cole highlighting the snack was played during the reunion. He also asked Zanab if she was working on her “wedding dress body“.

Zanab Jaffrey talks about how her ex fiancé Cole Barnett

Zanab Jaffrey talks about how her ex fiancé Cole Barnett

Zanab Jaffrey’s Instagram

Zanab has not been immune to hatred either. In her message to Cole, she also shared many “internet apologies.”

“I’m sorry. I’m sorry you weren’t in that relationship. I’m sorry you didn’t feel what I felt. I’m sorry we don’t have the same triggers. I I’m sorry I’m standing up for me, I offended you so much,” she began. “I’m sorry you didn’t see all the reasons for what I said. I’m sorry you didn’t go through that with me. I’m sorry you didn’t know me. I’m sorry your insecurities are different from mine.”

The real estate agent then addressed leaving Cole at the altar the same way as Deepti Vempati, whose story aired in early 2022. She reminded fans that seasons 2 and 3 of Love is blind were filmed in tandem, meaning she didn’t copy Deepti’s empowering decision not to marry Abhishek “Shake” Chatterjee.

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“I’m sorry that your hate online says so much more about you than it ever will about me. I’m sorry that Deepti’s wedding was a week before mine, long before you or I knew her story. I’m sorry you’re attacking my faith. I’m sorry you don’t believe me,” she said.

“I’m sorry, I know how worthy I am. I’m sorry you have time to be a keyboard warrior. I’m sorry, I’m not a paid actress. I’m sorry, I can’t cry on demand,” she continued. “I’m sorry you felt manipulated, gassed and played. I’m sorry for being your villain. I’m sorry for being your villain – I promise I’m not.”

Zanab ended the note by saying, “One thing about me, I choose my words carefully and stand by everything I said.”

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Season 3 of Love is blind is now available for full streaming on Netflix.


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